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Mama, Did He Take a Bus?

My brother Bill Pfordresher died this year, and now that it is Father’s Day once again, I remember this story. It is an eternal story, part of our family, part of our lives.  

We were a family of five…until my father died of a massive coronary at the age of 45, leaving my mother Jinni with a six, three and three-month old, Bill. And though this was truly part of his very early life, Bill gradually learned about fathers, and thus began to ask why he didn’t have one…later, hearing more family conversations, asking if he did have a father, had he gone to heaven? Certainly, Bill was hearing those words in our home, and being wise for his age, only three or four, he was trying to figure things out.

So one day (our mother said she was ironing in the kitchen) Bill came in with a question: “Mama, did he take a bus?”  

In our family, the story is legend, because our wise and amazing mother Jinni, knew exactly what Bill was asking. She also knew the importance of truth…that it is linked to trust. And that very day, Jinni did what she had done with John, who was six when our father died, and later with me who had been only three…she drove Bill to the cemetery, doing her best to explain heaven, death, sorrow and love…loving attempts to help a child understand where his father had gone.  

REUNIONS  

And now it is only days since Bill died and left us…the youngest of the three, life unpredictable, life always a pattern of sorrow and joy. Surely Jinni our mother, and Al our father….were there to great him. Surely, Bill no longer has questions, his body free of the weight of illness…his new life one of peace and understanding. 

Bill did not take a bus…but after enduring illness and death…he is now free to live beyond human bonds. We miss him, cry for him. He taught us how to love, to have faith, to sing when you are sad, to always look for joy and happiness. 

Bill was a gift of joy to Rita, his wife, to me, my brother John, my mother and so many others. Now he is with both of his parents and many friends who went before him. I like to think there are guitars in heaven, Bill will once again finding freedom and joy as his fingers create new and heavenly music. 

PS This post is only normal in length…it being impossible to include all aspects of Bill’s amazing and wonderful life. 

Harvest Moon Neil Young Also, ON and ON Can you guess the artist?

Remembering a Friend, a Writer….Gone Too Soon

Amy Sue Nathan’s bio on Face Book reads: Writer of novels, lover of cats, morning coffee, good chocolate, and bold lipstick. Occasional crafter, loyal friend, adequate cook, proud mom to 2 awesome adults.

Yes to all of this….but Amy was so much more…a writer of wonderful novels. 

Amy and I had both lived in Flossmoor, Illinois, but we did not know each other until the publication of her first novel: The Glass Wives. It was a time when my husband and I were leading busy lives, first moving to Des Moines, Iowa, then later to Westlake Village, California. But I kept in touch with Amy, following her amazing career. Then on a visit to Chicago, we met for dinner at Fresh Starts, a celebrated eatery in Flossmoor, Illinois, where both of us had lived at one time. Life is full of coincidences.

Amy had already published THE GLASS WIVES and was working on THE GOOD NEIGHBOR. We talked about writing, family and our goals. Amy encouraged my work and shared some of her writing process.

Latter, when she was conducting online classes for writers, I was right there, sending her my work, appreciating her analysis, her always right to the point comments. Amy was tireless, wise, often using events in her own life to fuel her fiction. She also knew how to step away from reality, creating stories with endings that better served her joys and sorrows, loves, hopes and desires. I read all of Amy’s novels, reviewing most of them on this blog…the last being WELL BEHAVED WIVES.

I miss Amy, often wondering if she left us with an unfinished novel, a work with the same amazing storylines and characters she always brought to life on the page. Thus…here is some of her work:  

Her debut: THE GLASS WIVES: Evie and Nicole Glass share a last name, and the same husband. When a tragic car accident ends Richard Glass’s life, this changes the two women’s lives and thus os their children. Then Evie sees a silver lining–she can rid herself of Nicole once and for all. But Evie wasn’t counting on her children’s bond with their baby half-brother. She wasn’t counting on Nicole’s desperate need to hang on to the threads of family. Thus considering the financial aspects of the situation, Evie agrees to share living expenses–and her home–with Nicole and the baby. But when Evie suspects that Nicole is determined to rearrange more than her kitchen, Evie questions who she can trust. She must also ask: what makes a family? 

THE GOOD NEIGHBOR

When small lies have big consequences…”Things are a little rough for Izzy Lane. Reeling from the wreck-up of her marriage, the newly single mom moves back to the Philadelphia home she grew up in, five-year-old Noah in tow. A difficult transition is helped by one of her best friends-and her elderly neighbor, Mrs. Feldman-Izzy feeling like she’s stepping closer to her new normal. Then her ex-husband shows up with his girlfriend, causing to invent a boyfriend of her own. Life gets complicated, though Izzy continues to blog about this new love. What’s the harm in a few made-up stories? But when friends want to meet the mysterious “Mac,” someone online suspects Izzy’s a fraud, a real-life guy catching her eye, Izzy realizing the stakes are high.

Twelve-year-old Shayna– talented, persistent, and adorable–persuaded “Aunt Tee” to return to Chance, Ohio, to photograph her father’s wedding. Even though it’s been six years since Shay’s mother, Celia, died, Teddi can hardly bear the thought of her best friend’s husband marrying someone else. But Teddi’s bond with Shay is stronger than the hurt.

A former beauty queen facing the secrets of her past must make choices for the sake of her family’s future. In the summer of 1951 all seemed possible. Betty Stern was an eighteen-year-old knockout working at her grandparents’ lakeside resort, the perfect place for Betty to prepare for bigger things. She’d head to college in New York City and a career as a fashion editor would flourish. But first, she’d enjoy a wondrous last summer at the beach falling in love with an irresistible college boy and competing in the annual Miss South Haven pageant. Then, Betty’s future was limitless. Decades later, the choices of that long-ago season still reverberate, Betty, now known as Boop. But when her granddaughter comes to Betty with a dilemma that echoes Boop’s memories of first love, broken hearts, and faraway dreams, it is time to face the past. Life is now her family, her own happiness. In reconciling the life she once imagined with the life she’s lived, Betty will discover it’s never too late for a  second chance. The last book of Amy published was WELL BEHAVED WIFES, wonderful! 

Her books are available on Amazon. 

SONGS of My Life

Music!!  It is part my me, part of my family heritage. 

My mother sang in the choir at St. Barnabas in Beverly Hills, Chicago. Her sister, my aunt Lucia Rausch, was the choir director and to my older brother John (who spent hours listening to Wager operas in our dining room and waving a baton to conduct the music)…this was not new to our family.  

Music calms as well as inspires. In my last post I wrote about swinging and singing… would you like to know what I was singing? Well in that early time it was:  I’m Just A Girl Who Can’t Say No….I’m in a terrible fix. I always say come on let’s go, just when I ought to say nix. From the musical comedy, OKLAHOMA. 

Readers today probably only know MY FAIR LADY, MUSIC MAN, CINDERELLA, SOUND OF MUSIC etc because your children or grandchildren are once again presenting these wonderful shows. 

As each one appeared on broadway, my aunts bought the record and very soon I learned all the lyrics and sang them from my swing. (see last week’s post) 

I did not get the winks or laughter from the adults when I say some of those lyrics…but I will always be grateful that they were mature and didn’t create some silly rule that would limit sexuality in songs. My mother referred to some of that culture when we did talk about sex. 

And she always said…LOVE MAKES THE WORLD GO ROUND. I used that with my own children, before realizing it was time to talk about sex. In our society today, they often know a lot, though in a confusing and unclear way. And sex has always been part of song…raunchy, tender, angry, sorrowful, it’s all there. 

If you son or daughter is belting out a current pop hit…you might stop and ask them what the song means. They might know the details and again, they might not know. Terminology changes. Ways to describe having SEX cannot be counted. 

It is always part of the challenge of parenting, especially when they act like they know EVERYTHING there is to know about SEX. But I guarantee, they do not. 

Thanks for reading. 

Sweet Baby James, Fire and Rain, Mean Old Man, Sweet Caroline, October Road, God Have Mercy ON Us,

POPE LEO: Our First Pope from the US is a STRONG Truth Teller

Robert Prevost was born on September 14, 1955, in Chicago, and raised in the nearby suburb of Dolton, Illinois. Now known to the world as POPE LEO, he is the first pope to have been born in America, and we American Catholics are not only amazed at his election, but  we are also excited about his vision and his voice. I don’t think Catholics ever thought there would be a pope from the US, and yet if we ever did, surely he would have been born and raised in New York City, Washington D.C or San Francisco, CA. But prayer and blessings make more sense in this context: Leo is from Dalton, a small town on the SOUTH SIDE of Chicago, where I was raised …not the North Side, and yes, Leo is super educated! 

Pope Francis speaks English, is fluent in Spanish, converses well in Italian and can carry on a conversation in Portuguese, French, German and Ukrainian. He also has a functional knowledge of Latin, the official language of the Holy See, and can read Greek and Hebrew. I took Latin in high school and French in college. At our Catholic Mass, I understand those parts that still use Latin…because I have heard them thousands of times. As for my French, I now can say a few sentences, like: Je suis libre jusqu’à trois heures…which means….I am free until three o’clock. Not very impressive. 

A TRULY MODERN POPE

And if you believe in God, or even in karma, surely Pope Leo came to us just at the right time…He takes on trump. Based on April 2026 reports, Leo has engaged in a sharp standoff with U.S. President, calling his actions “unjust” and criticizing the “absurd and inhuman violence” of the U.S.-Iran conflict. Leo stated he has “no fear” of the Trump administration, vowed to continue preaching peace, and warned against those who “manipulate religion… for their own military, economic and political gain”.

Why 2 Of My Life Decisions Got a Head Start in Biology Class

Sister Natalia was a small woman, but she had fire in her when it came to science. Her class was a requirement, the basics of biology, and wow was she fantastic in creating interest in that subject.

I can still picture her, almost lost behind her desk…and I can almost hear her voice, soft, not always clear and strong..but when you realized how smart she was, how fascinating the content she was imparting…you didn’t want to miss a word. At least, I didn’t.

Natalia taught sophomore Longwood Academy students basic science information. But later, when I looked back, I realized she was giving us information that was way beyond the basics. She was challenging us to  want more. It was a time that even though I was only sixteen, I was learning how to make decisions, to understand that every day moves you forward, molds you into who you are and who you will become.

In the second semester of her class, Natalia gave us a very difficult assignment: research, then write a paper about something new that was happening in a scientific field. To do so: Read and read some more. Do careful research, then write a paper concerning what you have learned.

She probably gave our class at least a month or longer to complete the assignment, because for me it required a train trip into Chicago to do research at the Chicago Public Library on Michigan Avenue. A friend and I took the Rock Island into the city, found the library, found a librarian who gave us information as to where we might access materials to satisfy our assignment.

Ironically and like a miracle, Life Magazine had been featuring a continuing series of articles about THE HUMAN BODY, with incomparable illustrations ie: How Your Body Converts Food to Fuel, (To Start, Your Teeth at Work); Fueling Teamwork by the Liver, Heart and Lungs. AND so much more: info about your Stomach, Back, Feet Bones, Muscles and Joints: how they work and what can go wrong. 

I was enthralled, took copious notes…and when Natalia lectured…please, keep talking! I love learning all of this. I’ll save my notes. This is fascinating. And so years later those notes helped me choose my second career: I studied much of this same  information when becoming a Maternity RN. 

And that other life decision?

One normal day in Natalia’s class, a note was passed to me. I don’t remember if it was just folded or in an envelope. And it will always be possible that others in class read it before I did, because I was in the back of the classroom, and the note writer, she was in the front when the note came to me. It read: You can have him, you Bitch.  

I did not save the note. And I don’t remember if soon after reading it I tore it up.

I did get the MESSAGE.

I knew this handsome guy had liked this person, and she had liked him. BUT WE WERE ALL SO YOUNG. We were in high school! No permanent plans had been made, each of us learning about one another, each of us growing, figuring out WHO WE WERE. And yes, she was angry, and yes he had become interested in me.

Did I make some big decision in biology class? No, but who we grow to love has to start sometime, and for me it was beginning, life carrying us along as our common interests and likes matured into love…a love that led to bigger, more serious decisions. I like to wonder if years later Sister Natalia would have approved my becoming a teacher and than an RN. And as for the handsome guy, you guessed right, I married him, my life being a wonderful journey because of our love and that subsequent decision. And once again, thanks for reading.

First photo: an artists conception of the Mitochondrion, the powerhouse of the cell. (Life Magazine) Second Photo: Longwood Academy students.